I am a sentimental sap; I admit it, especially this time of the
year. I find it amazing the things that trigger those sentimental moments, and
the trip down memory lane that follows. Such was the case last week when my
friend Mary posted a picture of a nativity set that my mother had made for her.
My mother was an artist, and a really good one (proving that
artistic ability is not genetic). She made clay sculptures, often people would
send her pictures of special memories, pets and people and she would custom
make a sculpture based off of the picture. I have heard from many people over
the years about how they cherish those sculptures, but what Mom was most known
for was her nativity sets.
She gave nativity sets out for graduation and wedding
presents and often I enter the home of friends and those very sets greet me.
Mom gave Jennifer and me one when we got married. It is a white glazed set just
like the original set that goes up in Dad’s living room each year. Mom even
included Jennifer’s dog Cisco in our set, because who better to guard Baby
Jesus than the best dog ever. My nativity set is one of my most cherished possessions.
Mary posted the picture of her set on Facebook and that
picture and the comments by others sent me down memory lane. Mom has been gone
for over ten years now so any excuse to pause for a moment and remember her is
very much welcome and is a great blessing. I miss Mom everyday but Christmas is
one of those times I realize just how much.
Mom made Christmas special. She didn’t make it special by
lavishing us with lots of presents or rushing from this event to the next. No,
she made Christmas special by reminding us of what was important and making
sure we kept our priorities in the right place. Sure there were special things
about the season but they never overshadowed the reason for Christmas.
Mom lived a simple, orderly life and she celebrated Christmas
the same way. Our tree was a simple cedar tree that we, as a family, would go
out and cut down from the pasture. Mom and Dad would have a couple of trees
picked out from frequent trips to check cows. The decorations were simple and
few in number, most were handmade by my sister and I. Most importantly, I got
to put the elf on the tree each year, no exceptions.
Christmas cookies were another one of Mom’s traditions. To
this day I can still smell the sugar cookies, date rolls, chocolate peanut
butter chip and jello cookies baking. A few presents would be under the tree
but Andrea and I knew the big present was hidden in the house somewhere and we
dared not go look for it. We also knew that we would get one big (in a relative
sense) present and some years, based on the farm, would be bigger than others.
We learned the importance of being thankful for what we received.
The biggest moment of the Christmas Season was Christmas
Eve. The day would be spent preparing to spend Christmas Day with family.
Chores had to be done and extra needed to be done in anticipation. We also knew
that sometime before noon, Dad would leave for town for his annual Christmas
shopping for Mom. We would eat supper before Christmas Eve service and it would
usually be oyster casserole (it would have been fried oysters like my
great-grandparents but frying oysters was a mystery Mom would never unlock) and
then we would go to Christmas Eve service. We always had to wait on Mom in the
car when we left. Why she took so much time that one night of the year was a
mystery.
To this day Christmas Eve service is the highpoint and the
most important part of Christmas to me. I am pretty sure that was what Mom
would have said too and that is why I feel that way. No Christmas is complete
without singing “Silent Night” in candlelight. We would return from Christmas
Eve service to find Santa had come while we were gone. Mom always explained
that Santa always came to the dairy farms on Christmas Eve.
Often during Christmas Season I will spend a few moments
looking at my nativity set and reflecting on my memories of Mom and Christmas.
I worry that as time goes on my memories of my mother will dim, and I work to
keep her in the forefront of my thoughts. I cannot thank friends like Mary
enough for jogging my reflections and sending me down memory lane. I hope each
of you will take a moment to remember cherished memories and celebrate the
important things this Christmas Season.